I woke up on the side of the road, paralyzed from the chest down.The injury was devastating, but the societal condemnation that came on top of it was worse. In the United States, we were still sterilizing people with disabilities against their will.
(As new readers come across this post please keep in mind that I wrote it almost three years ago and my overall outlook on the topic as well as a number of related circumstances in my life have changed, as you can read after the post and in the comments below.
Regards.) I’ve teased the topic of dating with a disability a bit in some of my past posts, and it’s a topic that’s already been covered elsewhere on this blog, but I thought that I would finally step up to the plate and provide a guy’s perspective on what it’s like dating with a disability.
Whether that's competitive wheelchair dancing, or just raving in our chair.
Anne Thomas " data-medium-file="https://tbmwomenintheworld2016.files.wordpress.com/2015/04/alexander-photo-2-131.jpg? w=300" data-large-file="https://tbmwomenintheworld2016.files.wordpress.com/2015/04/alexander-photo-2-131.jpg? w=1024" / Recently a friend asked me how my love life was going and I drew a blank. In 1976, at the age of 18, I dropped out of college after three semesters and went hitchhiking alone in Europe—to find myself.
I have asked so many men why they would not want to date a woman in a wheelchair and the answer is always sex.
It is very awkward for many to even think of wheelchair sex, and to ask that question that is on everyone's mind. Unless we ask, please don't suddenly start pushing us.We know that you mean well, but if you accidently hit someone or something, the embarrassment is all on us.2. Have a good long think before you start dating someone who's in a wheelchair because of a genetic reason.Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick!Some forums can only be seen by registered members.Turning round and saying that in the long run you can't be with someone with genetic defects but hey lets' still date and have 'fun', is not going to go down well. There's nothing more mortifying than having your wheels stuck in a door frame. Often people worry about things like: will they have to help us with personal care (the answer to that is no, if we need it we will have help in place already).