But even after the hard part is over, it’s never as cut-and-dry as simply saying good-bye. Do you wish them a happy birthday when Facebook aggressively prods you to?
Or maybe you want to remain friends with an ex because that’s an easier option than cutting ties abruptly, or because you still feel emotionally attached to them. “If you feel any emotion when you think of your ex—if you’re angry, pining, frustrated, or unsure—that means you’re still connected,” Orbuch says, which signals you have some emotional baggage you need to unpack before you think about reaching out.
Those reasons are exactly why staying in contact with an ex —like totally, 100 percent neutral, an emotional zero on a scale from one to 10—then it may be possible to stay friendly with them in a healthy and functional way, Orbuch says. If there are legitimate reasons to remain cordial (for instance, you have mutual friends, children, or you work at the same company), then by all means be civil toward one another. And if you were friends before, research proves it possible to go back to being friends again—regardless of who broke up with whom.
” And most people just assume we started the site while we were together and are now stuck in some sort of joint custody nightmare. We started the site long after our relationship ended and soon after our new-found friendship came to be.
Eric isn’t the only ex I’ve been able to be friends with, there actually are a few of them.
I’m not gonna lie, being friends with an ex isn’t easy.
You may find yourself re-living all the hurt and pain of the breakup (and does anyone wanna go through that nightmare twice?!The caveat: If one or both of you were romantically interested in each other during the previous friendship, you may (again) have trouble keeping things platonic, Breines says.That’s why it's probably a good idea to wait until you've recovered from the breakup to reestablish a friendship, which could take months or even years, depending on the nature of the split.“It's natural to want to comfort an ex through a breakup if they aren't taking it well,” Breines says.), you may experience a level of jealousy you never thought existed within you, and feelings that you’ve long since buried can abruptly be woken from the dead unleashing a whole Pandora’s Box worth of pain and problems. First, it’s really wonderful to have someone who was once so important to you back in your life.There is a great comfort in having someone who knows exactly who you are, good and bad, and just you. Maybe you’ll get answers to the questions that have been haunting you. Well one of my exes is actually now one of my best friends, as well as my business partner.