My heart jumped a little, and I’m not even into corny stuff like that. I didn’t realize it at the time, but he was actually exactly my type.
The Counseling and Mental Health Center at the University of Texas at Austin recommends that people with poor self-esteem seek support from their friends in this way.
Stay honest, and make a point to compliment this man’s actions, intelligence, loyalty, or sense of humor in a sincere way.
It doesn’t help that women have been wired for centuries to equate their worth with youth and beauty. “It is often the limiting thoughts a woman has absorbed that can create problems for the couple,” says Winter.
“If she is fearful, insecure and doubting her merit, she will never be able to accept that her younger man loves her.” Winter adds that media reports about Demi Moore’s obsession with looking young are “the perfect example of how the ideal of youth and beauty can torture even the most lovely example of a modern-day woman.” The idea that one must maintain an illusion of youth to keep a younger partner is illogical. “It's an up-front buy that he's willing to accept, because he values the totality of who she is and what she brings to his life.” Talk about family planning.
This man may have had experiences in early childhood that led him to create unrealistic standards for himself, to base his self-worth on social interactions with others, or to feel ashamed and internalize mistakes instead of assessing them and moving on, says Gertsen.
Try to understand that low self-esteem is a matter of distorted perspective, and empathize with this man as much as possible.Mariah Carey, 42, has had twins with Nick Cannon–that’s a 10-year age gap. But top of the tree, as ever, is Madonna, 53, who is at least considering a marriage proposal from her 24-year-old boyfriend, Brahim Zaibat.But no one raises an eyebrow at a 29-year age gap any more. There’s on television and dating sites like Cougar By MWLSE, I don’t mean dudes who are a little bit insecure. I mean men who are so bogged down by their warped vision of themselves that it haunts every aspect of their being.In retrospect, I should have known I was dealing with a MWLSE.And it’s not just for celebrities-according to a 2008 AARP poll, almost one-third of women between the ages of 40 and 69 date men who are 10 or more years younger. What will Madonna have to do to make sure her relationship lasts longer than , for some advice. “The assumption that a younger man will inevitably cheat on an older woman is part of the historic nonsense by which women are made to feel fearful, valueless and undesirable,” she says. Judging from, infidelity is by far the biggest issue cougars face.