But on the other, some of the best relationships come out of two people who were friends first.
If you and a friend have discovered you have feelings for each other, here’s how to make the transition while protecting both your friendship and each other. Going from friends to boyfriend and girlfriend is a big transition.
This person knows that it is a bad idea, but controlling our emotions in this way takes a discipline that most folks can’t muster. “Would she really come over and cook me dinner if she didn’t love me and want to be with me? Keeping it all straight can be a full-time job, and a single misinterpretation could lead to the backslide. Hope springs eternal and you need to move on One of the worst things that can happen to your dating life is getting hung up on someone who doesn’t love you. Each new person that comes your way and expresses interest is swiftly blown off, because you are desperately hoping you can rekindle the flame with your ex.
Jerry Seinfeld wisely observed that breaking up with someone was like trying to tip over a soda machine. Someone throws away a prominent career because they have fallen in love (or lust) with someone they shouldn’t.
Once it is moving and unstable only then you can push it over. It is difficult to tell another person, “I don’t want a romantic relationship with you.” Hearing it from someone else is clearly worse. The logic usually goes, “I do like her as a person. One night you’re out as friends, you have a couple of drinks, somebody leans in too close, and BAM! Only this situation is much more confusing, hurtful, and sad. It is hard to turn off romantic feelings You see it in the paper every day.
Now we find ourselves immersed in 2013, a year in which dating is tougher than most Olympic sports and your ability to lock down plans with a sane prospect for Friday night should land you atop the medal podium; definite gold goes to those whose night doesn’t end resembling a scene from .
So, what are modern day guys and gals to do when the tweeting, texting, facebooking, online-dating world of present-day love has tired them out and let them down?
Tim and Jessica, best friends living in New York City, found themselves single at the same time after seeing one another through years of crazy relationships and endless dating.
Their single statuses wouldn’t last however, as they concocted a crazy, yet amazingly awesome, idea that would reveal if opposites really do attract.
During this time, keep analyzing your feelings and making sure that a relationship is really what you both want. That way, if things don’t work out, it won’t be as awkward because less people knew about it in the first place.
And the less awkward it is, the easier it will be to resume your original friendship.
The slower you take it, the less likely someone is to get hurt if, in the end, one of you decides you’re actually better off as just friends.
Instead of jumping into a serious relationship right away, take a few weeks to slowly start hanging out more and get more intimate. And although you may feel like telling everybody, at the beginning it might be best to try to keep this one quiet.
So what should you think about before change your Facebook status to “In a relationship”? Is it because you really like this person, or are you trying to distract yourself from other problems? Jane Greer, a New York-based relationship expert and author of acknowledges that there are definitely some not-so-awesome reasons for entering a relationship.